Many people believe that they are in charge of their destiny, but the matter of fact is that they are living their lives on autopilot mode. In general, people follow the path they have been given. They believe that they have control over their lives, but they shy away from taking responsibility for their own acts. When they fail, they blame their circumstances and others for their failures. Whether you think you are in control of your destiny or not, one thing is certain; it takes courage and hard work to live out your life on your terms. It takes courage to reject what society expects of you, and it takes hard work to be successful. Many people give up way too soon before they reach their goal. When they face obstacles, they internalize those feelings of failure and are tempted to go back to their comfort zone. Success does not come easy. If you want to make your dream a reality, you have to work hard. Refusing to accept your destiny requires a strong desire and will to create a new path that leads to your dream.
Let me share the story of José Salvador Alvarenga. He is the only man known to have survived for more than a year at sea. He survived 14 months alone in the sea. Unbelievable, isn’t it. On 17 November 2012, Alvarenga set out on a fishing trip, hoping to catch sharks, marlins, and sailfish, which could earn him a good amount of money. He never thought his journey could turn into a one-and-a-half-year nightmare. He survived because he refused to give in to fate and struggled to live against all odds.
Soon after he left the shore, his boat was blown off course by a storm that lasted five days. The Fierce storm blew his 25-foot boat off course, killing the engine, knocking out the communications system, and leaving him and his colleague at the mercy of the waves. Heavily damaged boat with no sails, no anchor, no running lights, and no other way to contact shore, the boat began to drift across the open ocean. Their fishing gear was also lost or damaged in the storm, leaving them with only a handful of basic supplies and little food. Initially, the two men survived Cordoba and Jose Salvador Alvarenga.
As days turned to weeks, and weeks turned to months, they learned to scavenge their food from whatever sources they could find in that vast ocean. Alvarenga managed to catch fish, turtles, jellyfish, and seabirds with his bare hands, and the pair occasionally salvaged bits of food and plastic refuse to float in the water. They collected drinking water from rainfall, when possible, but more frequently were forced to drink turtle blood or their own urine. Alvarenga frequently dreamed about his favorite foods, as well as his parents.
Córdoba, his colleague, lost all hope within four months of the voyage. He became sick from the raw food and eventually died from starvation by refusing to eat. After the death of his only companion in the sea, Alvarenga has said that he contemplated suicide for four days, but his faith in God prevented him from doing so. He had strong hope that God would save him from this misery soon. Finally, on 30 January 2014, he spotted shore. He swam to the Marshall Island, where the official rescued him.
What do we learn from this story?
You tend to give in to your destiny if you do not dare to resist what your destiny has to offer. In order to take charge of your destiny, you should; accept the reality, have faith & hope, challenge your belief and realize the fact that you are the master of your fate.
Accept the reality
The reality may not be the desired one, but accepting it is the first step toward making any changes in life. Alvarenga knew that his circumstances were not desired, but he accepted the fact that he had to live in these circumstances only.
Faith and hope
Alvarenga said he survived because of simple optimism and faith that God would save him. He had strong hope that this nightmare would end and there would be good times ahead. So, never lose hope. Whatever your current circumstances, it is temporary, and this too shall pass.
Challenge your beliefs
Question the story you tell yourself. Evaluate it and convert your limiting beliefs into empowering ones. Alvarenga had almost given up when his companion Cordoba died. He had serious suicidal thoughts. But he reframed his limiting belief to empowering one. He changed his self talk from I CAN’T to I CAN.
Design your Life – YOU ARE THE MASTER OF YOUR FATE
Realize that you are in charge of your life by learning how to respond to the circumstance and just reacting. Have a strong belief in yourself that you are stinger than these challenges. Cordoba could not survive because he did not have the courage to pass through those difficult times, and soon, he gave up. On the other hand, Alvarenga survived triumphantly because he believed in himself. Alvarenga described himself as a prisoner who had been in solitary confinement for more than a year. He had no idea how to behave. “I was so scared. I was afraid of people. I couldn’t find the right words after being alone for so long.” But he learned that no one would rescue him in the deep sea. He has to find ways to survive.
So, think twice before giving up. Dreams are the seeds of destiny. When you give up on your dreams, you merely accept to live a life that destiny has chosen for you.
Your destiny is not written in the stars, it is in your heart. If you don’t hold the pen to write your destiny, someone else will take control of it.
So, Take Charge of Your Destiny.
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